{"id":1000,"date":"2021-10-25T17:43:30","date_gmt":"2021-10-25T17:43:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/theconsciousvibe.com\/?p=1000"},"modified":"2023-05-02T00:55:22","modified_gmt":"2023-05-02T00:55:22","slug":"am-i-self-aware","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/theconsciousvibe.com\/am-i-self-aware\/","title":{"rendered":"64 Tips To Tell If You’re Self Aware, or not (Only 10-15% Actually Are)"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

How do you know if you\u2019re self-aware?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re not self-aware,<\/em><\/strong> then you might think that you are self-aware,<\/em><\/strong>(even though you\u2019re not self-aware enough to know that you\u2019re not self-aware<\/em>)<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Confused?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Studies have shown for years, including a recent study from Harvard, that while most people think they are self-aware, only 10-15% of people are actually \u2018self-aware\u2019<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In this article we\u2019ll look at expert opinions and a wide range of diverse perspectives on self-awareness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s Dive In.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why We Tend To Think We\u2019re Self-Aware \u2014 When We\u2019re Not<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n
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A famous study, published by Science Direct<\/a>, found that 88% of Americans thought they were \u2018above average\u2019 drivers. If everyone was truly self-aware, then only 50% should feel that they\u2019re \u2018above-average\u2019 drivers.<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

According to psychology professor, Dr.Tara Well<\/a>,  \u201cSocial scientists have discovered that people often grossly overestimate their level of self-awareness,\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cAlmost nobody is self-aware\u201d, says psychologist Dr. Tasha Eurich<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The science is there, and most experts agree that most people just aren\u2019t as self-aware as they think they are.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Clinical psychologist Dr. John Duffy agrees<\/a>, saying that \u201cfar too often, we\u2019re wholly unaware of the emotional state that we are currently in, and to the degree of which our emotional state influences our behaviors and our thought process.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dr. John also says that \u201cThe degree to which we can manage our emotional states<\/a>, is the same degree that we can manage all other elements of our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Self-Awareness Gap \u2013<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

The self-awareness gap is the space between how aware we think<\/em> we are<\/strong>, verse how aware we actually<\/em> are<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n

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The larger your self-awareness gap becomes, the more unstable, anxious, stressed, and likely to become depressed you\u2019ll become.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When it comes to business, the self-awareness gap is also a huge factor for those is management positions. Recent studies<\/a> have found that \u201cThe More Successful We Are, the Less Self-Aware We Become\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A Lack Of Self-Awareness Is The Largest Enemy to Self-Growth (and business growth).<\/p><\/blockquote><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Top 3<\/strong> Reasons Why Most People Aren’t Self-Aware \u2013<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

1. Ignorance \u2013<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n

Through no-fault of your own. Self-awareness isn\u2019t a class in school (it should be), so it\u2019s not something that billions of us humans (on planet Earth) grew up with a conscious understanding of.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2<\/strong>. Ego \u2013<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n

Your ego<\/a> is the perspective from which you see yourself. Those with large ego\u2019s always see themselves as right (even when they\u2019re wrong<\/em>), and always think highly of themselves (even if they don\u2019t deserve it<\/em>).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In other words, your ego can block your perception of reality, and prevent you from being self-aware. As is evident, ego and self-awareness are in direct contrast to one another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Fear \u2013<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n

Katie Krimer<\/a> is a licensed Clinical Social Worker and she studies human behavior everyday she\u2019s on the job. Krimer points out that self-awareness isn\u2019t always easy, and can often be difficult, nerve racking, and indeed scary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Many people avoid building self-awareness because it involves looking at yourself with 100% honesty, and sometimes being honest with yourself, and accepting reality for what it is) can invoke feelings of shame, guilt , and fear which can be difficult to handle.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What Does \u2018Self-Awareness\u2019<\/em> Actually Mean ?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n
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The Oxford Dictionary<\/a> defines self-aware as having :\u201dknowledge and understanding of your own character\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And Oxford defines character, as \u201call the qualities and features that make you different from others\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In other words, self-awareness is the \u2018degree\u2019 to which you are consciously \u2018aware and accepting\u2019 of what makes you different from others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Self-awareness also focuses on your ability to recognize (and manage) your emotional state and the effect it has on both you , and the world around you.  <\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

The 3 States Of Self-Awareness \u2013<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

1. Internal (Private) Self-Awareness \u2013<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n

Internal self-awareness is a basic level of awareness when you understand that you\u2019re separate from your environment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

According to the Harvard Business Review<\/a>, internal self-awareness is based on how well we can see our ourselves objectively and understand our impact on our environment. This includes our awareness of our own values, passions, reactions, feelings, behaviors, strengths, weaknesses, and impact on others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. External (Public) Self-Awareness \u2013<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n

External, or public, self-awareness is your level of awareness of how (external) people perceive you. External awareness doesn\u2019t usually develop until around age 5<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Harvard research<\/a> shows that people who know how others see them, are more skilled at leading with empathy, and leveraging multiple perspectives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Introspective (Higher-Level) Self-Awareness \u2013<\/strong><\/h4>\n\n\n\n

Introspective self-awareness<\/a> is similar to internal self-awareness, but takes it a step further. For example, dogs have some level of internal self-awareness, but little to no introspective self-awareness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Introspection is responsible for our ability to reflect to understand feelings, desires, and beliefs in more depth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What Are the Benefits Of Self-Awareness ?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Based on my own personal experience, I\u2019d much rather be aware of the ugly truth, as opposed to being unaware and ignorant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In my opinion the benefits of being more self-aware are not quantifiable. The benefits of increasing self-awareness are far-reaching, and span every aspect of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dr. Eurich<\/a> points out that higher levels of self-awareness are associated with higher job satisfaction, higher relationship satisfaction, feelings of more personal and social control, higher levels of happiness, and less anxiety, stress, and depression.<\/p>\n\n\n

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The Goal Of Self-Awareness Is Self-Acceptance \u2013 10 Benefits of Self-Acceptance<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Once you accept reality <\/a>for what it is, then you can decide how you want to react to it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

According to clinical researcher and licensed psychotherapist Rachel Fintzy Woods, M.A., LMFT<\/a>, here\u2019s some of the top benefits of self-acceptance.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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  1. Acceptance helps us become better problem solvers<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
  2. Acceptance supports our emotional and physical health<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
  3. Acceptance contributes to healthier relationships<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
  4. Accepting our feelings helps us to know ourselves better<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
  5. Acceptance reduces the chances that feelings will resurface at a later time<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
  6. Acceptance is a form of forgiveness<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
  7. Acceptance frees us from analysis paralysis<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
  8. Acceptance contributes to inner peace<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
  9. Acceptance strengthens us psychologically<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
  10. Acceptance is an assertion of control, in that we are choosing our attitude and our actions<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    A Lack Of Self-Awareness Leaves You Blind To Control<\/p><\/blockquote><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

    9 Indicators That You\u2019re Not Very Self-Aware<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

    (Signs Of Low Self-Awareness)<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

    Understand it\u2019s not your fault that you lack self-awareness.<\/p>\n\n\n

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    1. Your Emotional Reaction Doesn\u2019t Match The Situation<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
    2. You Get Defensive When Someone Gives You (critical) Feedback<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
    3. You Repeat Negative Emotional Patterns<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
    4. The Things You Do To \u201cMake Yourself Feel Better\u201d Don\u2019t Actually Make You Feel Better From a Long-Term Perspective<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
    5. You Often Regret The Decisions You Make In Everyday Life<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
    6. Nothing Is Ever Your Fault<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
    7. You Tend To Micromanage<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
    8. You Say Things You Don’t Mean<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
    9. You Can’t Laugh At Yourself<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

      [Here’s a Deep Dive Into Telling If Someone Else is Lacking Self-Awareness<\/a>]<\/p>\n\n\n\n

      25 Signs That You\u2019re Self-Aware \u2013<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

      (<\/strong>Habits of Highly Self-Aware People)  <\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n
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      1. You Spend Time Thinking About Your Thought Processes<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
      2. You Understand the Importance of Taking Time to Reflect<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
      3. You Practice the Skill of Mindfulness<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
      4. You Understand There\u2019s So Much That You Don\u2019t Know<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
      5. You Admit Your Mistakes And Are Able to Turn Them Into Life Lessons<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
      6. You Intentionally Look At Things From Different Perspectives And Accept Others\u2019 Opinions<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
      7. You Understand Your Emotions And Openly Express Your Feelings<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
      8. You\u2019re Not Afraid to Ask \u201c\u201dDumb<\/em>\u201d\u201d Questions<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
      9. You\u2019re Not Afraid To Apologize And You Know How<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
      10. You Are Aware Of Your Strengths And Weaknesses<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
      11. You Take Criticism Without Getting Defensive<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
      12. You\u2019re Rarely Ever Provoked To the Point of Anger, And Usually React In A Calm and Sensible Manner<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
      13. You Don\u2019t Numb Your Emotions, Or Try To Escape From Them<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
      14. You Have A Deep Understanding Of How You Best Learn and Absorb Information<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
      15. You Consciously Ask For Feedback (And Take It Well)<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
      16. You Don\u2019t Expect Life To Give You Any Special Privileges<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
      17. You\u2019ve Grown Wiser From Your Own Past Failures<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
      18. You Know You\u2019re More Than Your Thoughts<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
      19. You Know You\u2019re More Than Your Feelings<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
      20. You Live By What’s Important To You<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
      21. You Know How To Prioritize Putting Yourself First<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
      22. You Understand That You Can’t Become Who You Want To Be<\/em>,  If You Don\u2019t Learn From Who You\u2019ve Been<\/em><\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
      23. You Know There’s Only One Common Denominator In All Of Your Relationships<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
      24. You Listen More Than You Talk<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
      25. You Consciously Seek Out and Look For Emotional Blind-spots<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

        [Check out a more detailed FULL GUIDE on Signs That You\u2019re Becoming More Self-Aware (Habits of Highly Self-Aware People) Here<\/a>]<\/p>\n\n\n\n

        20 Tips To Become A More Self-Aware Person<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

        (Cultivate You Self-Awareness Skills)<\/h3>\n\n\n
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        1. Ask \u201cWhat?\u201d Instead Of \u201cWhy?\u201d<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
        2. Use Your Brain \u2013 Exercise Common Sense<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
        3. Ask Others About Their Perception Of You<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
        4. Practice Mindfulness<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
        5. Set Goals for The Future<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
        6. Stop Expecting Special Chances In Life. Create Them<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
        7. Start Checking In With Yourself
          – ask yourself \u201cif you\u2019re in the present moment\u201d
          – ask yourself \u201cif you\u2019re in control of your emotions\u201d<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
        8. Make An Effort to Always Keep Learning<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
        9. Consciously Try To Trade \u2018Screen Time<\/em>\u2019 For \u2018People Time<\/em>\u2019<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
        10. Spend Time Looking In The Mirror<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
        11. Let Your \u201cEmotional Walls\u201d Down<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
        12. Tune Into Your Feelings, Accept Them, And Let Them Go<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
        13. Spend Alone Time With Yourself  (Preferably In Nature)<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
        14. Take Steps And Make An Effort To Become A Better Listener<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
        15. Take Full Responsibility For Exactly Where You Are In Life<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
        16. Understand the Difference Between Kind and Nice<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
        17. Focus Less About “How To” And More About “What’s Stopping Me”<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
        18. Get A Handle On Your Emotional Bullshit (to be \u2018frank\u2019)<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
        19. Ask The Tough Questions That Nobody Else Will<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n
        20. Go To Therapy \u2013 And Embrace It \u2013 No Shame<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

          Self-Awareness vs. Self-Consciousness<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n
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          Consciousness and awareness<\/a> are \u201ctwo peas in a pod\u201d. Consciousness is defined as \u201cthe state of being aware<\/strong>\u201d. While awareness, is defined as \u201cthe level of understanding that something is happening\u201d<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

          Awareness is a measurement of consciousness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

          Self-consciousness however, is something different. Self-awareness is , as it sounds, your awareness of yourself, but being self-conscious is an \u2018over-awareness\u2019 or exaggerated negative self-perception of yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

          Being self-conscious can actually be a sign of \u2018lacking awareness\u2019. Self-consciousness is often associated<\/a> with shyness and embarrassment, in which case a lack of positive self-awareness can turn into low-esteem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

          Final Thoughts: How Self Aware Are You ?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

          Self-awareness is one of those things (like strength) where even if you are self-aware, you can always be more self-aware (just like you can always get stronger).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

          Self-awareness isn\u2019t something that you do, become self-aware, and then you\u2019re done. Being self-aware is a perspective shift and a lifestyle.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

          For me personally, becoming more self-aware is like constantly improving your vision. Once you improve it a little bit, everything you see looks a bit different. After you\u2019ve worked on self-awareness for a while, things that you thought you saw clearly suddenly look different, revealing a new world of truth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

          While most people think they\u2019re self-aware, on 10-15% actually are. Are you currently implementing any of these tips above top make sure that you\u2019re in the 10-15%?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

          Let us know what you do to cultivate self-awareness or if there\u2019s any tips we missed that should be included.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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          And hey, don\u2019t miss out on our curated list of must-reads in the recommended books section<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

          Big thanks for diving in with us today!<\/p>\n\n\n

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